You should have the fruit of the Spirit to use the gifts of the Spirit. This is important because the gifts empower us to do mission and ministry. Without the gifts of the Holy Spirit our outreach, our ministry, our Christian life, our work, would be fruitless. To work in the Master's vineyard we must be trained and empowered by the Master.
On the other hand, the fruit allows us to live in community with other believers (as well as non-believers). Love, gentleness, longsuffering- These are attributes that are crucial to our relationships with people. These two things must be working together to accomplish anything near success or even fulfillment in the Christian life.
- The fruit allows the discretion to properly use your gifts. Because of the Holy Spirit reminding us how we are to relate to others, we better know how to minister to them.
- The fruit helps you be sensitive to the needs of others. Gentleness, peace and self-control will allow us to recognize and appropriately respond to our friends, family members, co-workers, neighbors and even other church people.
- The fruit helps you to be gentle in your relationships. If only we could take back all the hurtful, gossipy things that we have said. If only we could be sure that we would never hurt someone with our words again. With the fruit of the Spirit working in our lives we can get closer to that ideal.
Relate to one another with...
- Love. The mission of Jesus, and all his followers, is to love. Our priority is to love those around us. Care about everyone. Be sensitive to their needs. Love them not for what they can do for you, but because they are an important child of God.
- Listening. Pay attention when someone is talking. Three things will happen when you listen. First of all, you will hear what someone else is saying. Secondly, they will know that you care about them. And finally, if you are listening you will not be saying anything stupid.
- Patience. Take your time. Not everyone is going to learn, grow and change as fast as you are. Let your friends have time to heal from hurts and to experience the love of God.
- Understanding. This is the hardest part. When you listen to the needs of others, you have to do your best to be empathetic. Put yourself in someone else's position. Remember that Jesus did this all the time. He ate with publicans and sinners. He tried to understand everyone and their needs.
- Acceptance. There is no place in the Christian faith for judgmentalism. Jesus loves everyone. Although he does not approve of everything, he does accept all kinds of people. Christianity is no place for prejudice, bigotry or racism. You are not superior to anyone.
Either way, Christians should have all the fruit of the Spirit.